Faking The Orgasm

Faking The Orgasm

With Valentine's Day tomorrow, we of course needed to talk about sex.

Something many couples - and friends with benefits - will hopefully have the pleasure of doing on the day of #LOVE is getting down and dirty. Truth be told though - during one sexual partner or another - we as ladies have most likely faked an orgasm during our horizontal tangos. It sucks. It inflates a guy's ego and makes them think they're the man. A sex god if you will. We at Winsome & Canny want to support other women - and to do that we need to STOP faking orgasms, so that the next woman to test drive that car can at least enjoy herself a little bit more.

We reached out to a few of our girl friends to get their opinions on whether or not they have faked an orgasm. **Some names have been changed to protect themselves from their families' judgment**

Jenna** - 26: 

I've faked orgasms a few times. For some reason I always get the guys who really want me to get off before they do, which is nice - don't get me wrong - but sometimes I'm just too drunk to finish haha, so I fake it. If it's someone I've slept with before I make sure to really put on the theatrics because they already know what I sound like, and do, when I'm cumming. If it's a new guy and they ask me I just simply say yes. A lot of times though guys have no idea HOW to get girls off. They think that just hammering away like a jack rabbit will do it. If he's willing to wait for me then I'll just kind of take control when I'm on top, but if he still has no clue I'll just end it by faking it haha. I know I shouldn't and I'm trying not to anymore, but sometimes I get fed up with the lack of ability some of these men have. 

Chelsea - 23:

Usually I either fake an orgasm with the hopes that it will increase his passion or sex drive. Sometimes it's because I just want it to be over, but that doesn't always work. Other times it's to spare the feelings of the person involved. It depends on the situation and who I'm engaging with. 

Tina** - 24: 

I've actually never faked an orgasm. I ain't about that life, LOL. If I'm not into it they're going to know it. This one guy I used to sleep with was overly sensitive about wether or not I was getting off. Even when I would he would still think I hadn't. Every time we were done he would ask if I came. It's not like I'm a silent orgasmer. I don't know if he just needed the validation but he would say it multiple times after having sex. He was really good though so I don't really know what his issue was.

I guess for a guy its better that they care than not care. The reason girl's fake orgasm is to get sex over with faster. I feel like with guys I've slept with they can't hold out long enough anyways so I just wait until they cum and then it's over with.

Molly** - 27:

Back in college I used to fake orgasms for a few reasons. Usually it was because the guy wasn't great in bed and you just wanted to get it over with. Other times, the guy would finish too quickly and I'd lie and say I was finished too. It is definitely easier to fake them as girls than guys. I have had a few guy friends tell me they've faked them before though.

If the guys knew I didn't get one, I feel like it would be a hit to their egos - their "man hoods". And it would probably ruin the entire night. But I would have to say it was better off in the long run to fake them, though. 

Susie** - 24:

 I've faked two orgasms. The first one was actually the reason why I broke up with my live-in boyfriend of three years. It's depressing actually, because towards the end of our relationship I was literally so over him - and so randomly repulsed by the thought of fucking him - that the last time we had sex I faked an orgasm so that I could quickly pack up my shit to leave him LOL. The second time I faked an orgasm was because I realized the dude's dick was small, so we all know how that goes. I'd never do it again though. Men aren't worth your fake orgasms. 

Danielle - 22:

Faking during sex is something I never aim to do . For the few times that I have, I realized that I was trying to maneuver an awkward situation (in other words: nurturing the male ego). In doing so, I realized that I'd sacrifice my own pleasure  for someone not adamant about creating it for me. Ain't nobody got time!

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