#BESTIES - August 2017
Since Winsome & Canny is all about empowering women, strong female friendships, and women supporting women, it is with no surprise that we would dedicate a month of photos to female besties. Back when I was just a wee little girl romping through the cornfields of Vermont we were made to think that you could only have ONE best friend. Mine was Jamie. Her and I have been friends since we were in daycare together and still, to this day, get into shenanigans that we did when we were 4 or 5 years old, but now on a grander scale. When I got into high school and started meeting girl friends I realized that there shouldn't be a limit on a bestie. At this point in my life I'd say that I have about 10 girl friends who I consider my best friends. They are honestly just the people in my life who have always been there for me (doesn't matter the LENGTH of time that may be) and vise versa, and we understand each other.
As I was writing this article I even used Urban Dictionary to help properly define what exactly the best friend title entails. UD defines it as such:
Best Friends are very special people in your life. They are the first people you think about when you make plans. They are the first people you go to when you need someone to talk to. You will phone them up just to talk about nothing, or the most important things in your life. When you’re sad they will try their hardest to cheer you up. They give the best hugs in the world! They are the shoulder to cry on, because you know that they truly care about you. In most cases they would take a bullet for you, coz it would be too painful to watch you get hurt.
Pretty fucking accurate if you ask me!
So why not celebrate these friendships. Celebrate the people who were with you for your first heartbreak - they sat next to you on your bed while you balled your eyes out and blew your nose into a tissue and helped plot different ways to destroy said boys life. Celebrate the friends who have stayed up late with you just chatting about life - each other's hopes and dreams for the future, your fears, desires, etc. Or your best friends you met your freshmen year of college. You miraculously got randomly paired together as roommates and now you're not sure how you even made it TO college without them in your life.
In a world where women more often than not tear each other down instead of build each other up, we need to learn to encourage one another and support each and every woman. Having a best friend is like a relationship. It takes commitment, and understanding on both sides to make it work. It takes trust and if you're not willing to put in the effort then you're going to miss out on so many laughs - like laugh until you pee yourself a little. You're going to miss out on soooo many inside jokes, side eyes, eye rolls, and Monday night cuddle sesh's on the couch while you watch the remaining five guys on the Bachelorette vie for one woman's affection.
It's crazy really how friendships work. I think my favorite friend quote so far is "Friendship is so weird...you just pick a human you've met and say, 'Yup, I like this one.' And then you just do stuff with them." Over the past almost 8 years since moving to New York I've accumulated a pretty dope ass group of friends. Most people outside of my circle think it's a bit strange that most of my close friends are from random encounters. BUT after all it is New York, and at the end of the day there are thousands of other 20-something year old peeps looking to hang out, relax, and bitch about their lack of funds. I love being able to learn about other people: their experiences, their accomplishments and grow together in this crazy city. If you're able to find your best friend and keep them for 20+ years that's freaking awesome. If you moved to New York 2 years ago and found yours at a random bar in Alphabet City where they saved you from some creepy, thirsty guy hitting on you, then so be it too!
Let's celebrate our strong female friendships - not just this month but every month and every day.